It is the parent who brings their child to us, not the child who comes asking for help—and this could complicate matters!
OUR OBJECT RELATIONS THEORIES OF DEVELOPMENT can be misused to support a view of the child as passive recipient of parental input. This might lead one to have no appreciation of the complicated active processes within the child. Appreciation of the child’s role in assigning meaning to perceptions in the light of developmentally determined capacities and drive propensities, is essential to a reasonable stance with parents who come to us with their concerns.
A misrepresentation of the classic analytic model can be used to distance the analysts from parents who make them anxious. It is easy to see parents as pathogenic, intrusive, disruptive, and unempathic with “the child’s needs”—the analyst may ask why can’t parents just let their child have the experiences or treatment that he/she needs and leave us alone? It is not easy for analysts to see the treatment process, itself, as an intrusion into the family and recognize their own aloofness, unavailability, criticism, exasperation, and even discourtesy as a problem. It is hard to examine the disinclination to understand the parental resistances and work with …
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The Raleigh News and Observer, Friday, February 28, 2003
CHILDREN, PARENTS AND PERIL Easing Youngsters’ Fears as Talk of War Comes Closer to Home
By Donald Rosenblitt
Cary, NC – We are all living with a sense of an impending yet undefined national crisis. At the Lucy Daniels Center for Early Childhood we have discovered that Triangle area children differ widely in the extent to which they are sensing and reacting to the current climate. We can help children cope successfully with these times by providing: Protection, Discussion, Reassurance, and Perspective.
1. Control access to information: Children six years and under do not have sufficiently abilities to manage information about dangers without experiencing excessive anxiety. Parents can best support their development by shielding them from scary information, including all radio and TV news.
Children ages seven through twelve years can benefit from knowing basic information, but may also suffer excessive anxiety if exposed to overly detailed information or images. Teenage children should have full access to information and images, but still require protection from media bombardment, which can increase anxiety for teenagers and adults alike.
2. Diminish other family stresses: Parents can reduce controllable sources of family stress by …
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